Doing It Differently This Year

Today is January 1, 2011. The buzz in my social media circles is choosing a word (or three) to define and structure what you want to ‘be’ this upcoming year. I like the idea as long as you develop some sort of trigger to keep the words and ideas behind them top of mind.  Too often New Year’s ‘resolutions’ get forgotten by March (hello Valentine’s Day and Easter candy!).  I think the key isn’t to identify your three motivating words, but to find your trigger points to know what it will take to remind yourself of your words and keep on track.  Good intentions produce nothing without consistent action.

CalendarWhile I wasn’t originally going to pick my three words because I’m not really a fan of jumping on the Internet meme bandwagon, I realized that if I keep doing what I’m doing I’m going to keep getting what I’m getting.  I’ve been blessed with the ability to work hard and be productive with both my business and (hopefully) my family, and understand that my ability to be a driven, successful person is based on every decision and experience I have had up to this moment.  But – like many women – I have neglected ME.  You see, I turn 40 this year.  FORTY. I need to start paying attention to me.  When I turned 30 I was a bit unsettled, but had just married my husband the year before and was about to have our first child and it was all exciting.  I had a plan, or at least a general roadmap of where I was going.  I knew my 30s were the decade I was officially a ‘grown up’, where we would grow our family and plant roots and become stable.  What the hell do my 40s have to offer?  Our family is complete, we are as settled as we are ever going to get and our businesses are established.  I DON’T KNOW WHAT IS SUPPOSED TO COME NEXT.

I have a project manager mindset having been in the role by trade and experience for over 20 years.  I’m analytical.  I like mapping everything out in front of me, looking at all possible outcomes (and risk), and developing scenarios for each outcome that increase positive results and/or lessen risk.  In my world there is always a next goal – you either constantly ‘level up’ or you sink.  You can’t do that with LIFE.

So if I don’t know what is next, all I can do is concentrate on making what I have better.  While I haven’t picked my three words yet, I do know what categories they need to be in.  (See I’m at least drawing the outline even if the data isn’t there yet – my analytical mind approves.)

Professional
Personal – Mindfulness
Self

I know that in my professional life what I have to do, but taking the time to really sit and reflect to find ONE PERFECT WORD that embodies the full breadth and depth of my intentions is needed. On a personal level – my family and life away from work – it’s actually a little less clear.  Part of defining a word for my personal self is taking a good hard look at where I’ve fallen down and where I’ve excelled, and try to take into consideration both for moving forward.  The self word is the hardest.  I never put ‘self’ on the list.  Maybe putting me on the agenda is enough, but being that this is a new decade for ME as well, I think I need to not just the acknowledgment that I exist but make myself a priority.

Once I figure out what my words are I will come back and edit this post for the sake of completion, but in the meantime, what have you decided to concentrate on this year?  For me it’s not only a new year, but a new decade on the calendar and in my life.  BIG. CHANGES. ARE. NEEDED.

About Lynette

Lynette Young has been a pioneer in social media since she began blogging in 1997. In 2006 she founded Purple Stripe Productions, a social technology and strategy firm. Lynette works with companies, organizations, and professionals to help them have more meaningful conversations with their customers in new and engaging ways using digital publishing platforms. She's also a makeup junkie, shoe collector, gamer geek, and fan of Doctor Who (and all things David Tennant).

Comments

  1. First thing that came to my mind was “relate”: to have relationship or connection. I have a lot of follower on twitter, a growing list of LinkedIn connections and scores of old and new friends on Facebook. This year I want to connect in some meaningful way with each and every one.

    The other word that comes to mind is possibility. Last year, I was stuck in the realm of “not happening”. This year I want to be the possibility of possibility.

  2. I love what you said about not knowing what your 40′s are supposed to be about. Very true. I’m viewing my 40′s as a transition – the time when I finish up raising my kids into responsible adults while working to ensure that my 50′s will be a time of freedom and travel.

  3. I honestly had the realization that my 40s are completely unplanned while I was writing that post. Scared the junk out of me, but I suppose that is part of the benefit of blogging – to discover new things about myself. My 50s my kids will be in college, so that’s the decade of the empty nest (AMEN!) but this one seems too much in limbo. I need a plan!!

  4. I like that – the possibility of the possibility. In my professional life I always strive to “ask for the ask” since I am horrible at ASKING for business or help or advice or whatever. Your idea of taking the time to develop relationships with the people you are already connected with is a wise one!

  5. Anonymous says:

    Oh, I know the 40 thing well. The focus changes. It’s about putting yourself on the list of priorities and figuring out what you want, instead of who wants what from you instead. Totally there.

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